Do I need counselling?

Contrary to popular misconception, you don’t have to be “crazy,” desperate, or on the brink of a meltdown to go to therapy. At the same time, therapy isn’t usually necessary for every little struggle life throws your way, especially if you have a strong support system of friends and family. So how do you know when it’s time to see a therapist? Most people can benefit from therapy at least some point in their lives. Sometimes the signs are obvious—but at other times, something may feel slightly off and you can’t figure out what it is. Before it gets to this point, here are five signs you may need help from an expert

1. Feeling sad, angry, or otherwise “not yourself.” Uncontrollable sadness, anger, or hopelessness may be signs of a mental health issue that can improve with treatment. 2. Abusing drugs, alcohol, food, or sex to cope. When you turn outside yourself to a substance or behaviour to help you feel better, your coping skills may need some fine-tuning.

3. You’ve lost someone or something important to you. Grief can be a long and difficult process to endure without the support of an expert. While not everyone needs counselling during these times, there is no shame in needing a little help to get through a significant loss.

4. Something traumatic has happened. If you have a history of abuse, neglect, or other trauma that you haven’t fully dealt with, or if you find yourself the victim of a crime or accident, chronic illness, or some other traumatic event. Trauma always needs a little bit of help to recover from.

5. You can’t do the things you like to do. Have you stopped doing the activities you ordinarily enjoy? If so, why? Many people find that painful emotions and experiences keep them from getting out, having fun, and meeting new people. This is a red flag that something is amiss in your life.

If you decide that therapy is worth a try, it doesn’t mean you’re in for a lifetime of “head shrinking.” In fact, a 2001 study in the Journal of Counselling Psychology found that most people feel better within seven to 10 visits. This is also true of our children. If you thin any of the above apply to the children in your life, then the same applies.

Although severe mental illness may require more intensive intervention, most people benefit from short-term, goal-oriented therapy to address a specific issue or interpersonal conflict, get out of a rut or make a major life decision. The opportunity to talk uncensored to a unbiased professional without fear of judgment or repercussions can be life-changing.

Most people can benefit from therapy at least some point in their lives